Relationships.....That one word has so much weight to it that just thinking about it makes people wonder how complicated things get so fast; especially between a boy and a girl, or a man and a woman, or a husband and a wife.
What do we do as a couple? How do you make things work when fate is against you? How do you understand each other and respect each other? At this day and age when everything is about infidelity, or temptation, how do you make things just work? How can you have that love story that you see Allie and Noah share in the Notebook? How do you keep that love alive? How do you make things work together in the hardest of times? Do you follow your heart or just do what is practical? Can you have the romance, love and marriage that you see two aged 80 year old couple still have? Does that even exist?
Well today I very wise man that I respect very much told me 5 simple words that can make you have that love, strength, romance, and marriage that everyone just dreams of.
But that dream of yours can be a reality, but you gotta work at it.
So here goes:
The 5 COM words:
1. Commitment: Well this word is simple. Basically just stick to your word. Don’t change your mind no matter what happens. It’s not something you wanna just try to see how things will go. It’s a promise that you intend to keep through the thick and the thin.
2. Communication: Well just talk!! Basically its as simple as saying what you think and feel. Pour your heart out to your beloved. More importantly, LISTEN. Listen to what he/she is trying to say. Try and understand.
3. Complement: Now who in the world is perfect? No one. So you gotta make it perfect. Like land and water, like the sun and the moon, like the day and the night, you just gotta make it work. You are half of something that’s whole, so both of you gotta do your part and make it a complete circle. Not a triangle or a square or a semi circle, but a whole, 360 degree perfect circle.
4. Compliment: For Christ's sake just them her she’s pretty, and when she asks you do I look fat, tell her "No baby, you look beautiful." (Unless you know she looks really bad and she would be making herself a fool if she wears whatever she is wearing tell her the truth, but with ease.) Men tend to forget that when it comes to matters as such you gotta be sensitive to your ladies.
5. Compromise: By doing a little something for your specific other makes them happy, do it if its not gonna kill you. So stop being stubborn. There is no place for egos or pride when it comes to your relationship. Ego and pride are just barriers. You have to remember that by loving each other and deciding to be together in love, 2 become 1. 2 souls, 2 hearts, 2 minds, and 2 bodies become 1. So you have to act together.
6. Compassion: Even though you are 2 people becoming 1 soul in love, you have to realize you still lead two different lives. So in the lives you have at work and the life you had before you met your beloved there will be things from your past or her past that might come up in the future as a couple together. So instead of hurting your beloved and pointing out the mistakes, you have to sympathize for one another. A loving relationship has no room for judgment.
7. Companionship: Eat together; you will be surprised what happens when you share a meal together. You don’t always have to do something you beloved wants you to do. You don’t always have to go to the games, or you don’t always have to go see the opera. You have to remember to work together with your differences. You can always have your “buddies” or “girlies” to stuff like that all the time. But after all of that, just make sure you share a meal together.
The wise man who spoke these words has a wife of 37 years, wonderful children and grandchildren and is happily married. When they met, he was 21 and she was 19 and they were married with two years. So I think the man knows what he’s talking about. So give it a shot, it wouldn’t hurt you know.
